“He has perfect pitch, doesn’t he?!”
YES!! AWESOME!! Way to SELL it kid! Never before has a six-year-old NAILED “He has perfect pitch, doesn’t he?!” with such nuance… such finesse… such aplomb.
I rise from the soundboard I’m manning to clap and shout… and then I slowly sit down again. Oh yeah. It’s only rehearsal after all. And it’s mid-scene. And that would be awkward.
Besides, I know my boys. As soon as they are released from duty, before I can even pull the faders down on the last strains of the CD soundtrack, my boys will be on me. Off the stage, up the stairs to the balcony, full sprint to the sound board, through the air, landing on me.
“Hey Dad! Dad! Hey! Did you see?”
To be honest, I don’t even know if it matters what words come out of my mouth. But I learned something a long time ago that rang my bell, and it’s had a deep impact on me as a dad:
The way you react to your kids when they enter the room communicates volumes to them about what you think of them.
Let that hover in your mind a bit. Now let it affect you. Now let it change you.
My one job of the moment when being jumped upon by my two enthusiastic budding actors was to share in and multiply their enthusiasm. My one job was to communicate JOY to them – joy that they are MY boys. And affirmation. They might not grow up to be actors, but they will grow up to be mine.
When I come home from work – my mind still revving – and my boys run out to say “hi” before I even make it out of the van… I’ve got to gear shift. Work’s done. Bills will wait. I’m a dad. I’m going to light up like the sun – let these boys know they mean the world to me. How I react when they come into the room has far more impact on them than I will ever know.
That’s why I almost lost it when I saw this website today. And you know what? I’m not really a guy who likes to get on my soapbox to make proclaimations about what I’m AGAINST. I’d much rather be known for the things/people/values that I am FOR. But sometimes, I’ve gotta call ugly when I see it…
And now, if your ordinary kids just aren’t good enough… There’s Foto4Good[dot]com to the rescue. Don’t just tell them they don’t measure up ONCE and be done with it! No! Now for $39.90 (plus shipping and handling) you can purchase a reminder of their ordinariness that will tell them over and over again what you really think! From the “Foto4Good” website…
“If you are looking at transforming your ordinary photo into a Prize-Winning Pageant photo, you’ve come to the right place…”
I’ve also come to the right place if I want to throw up a little bit and start throwing punches.
* pausing to breathe deeply and choose my words carefully… *
I don’t have girls of my own. But I do have four God-daughters. This website feels dangerous when I think of those girls. It’s poison. And we do have five rowdy, raucus, wonderful boys. They are all ordinary kids who are extraordinary to me. And they are going to know it.
When you come home tonight, and your kids come into the room, you’ve been handed an opportunity. What will you communicate to them?
“when your kids just aren’t good enough…” by Joshua Skogerboe is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 3.0 United States License.